It’s officially December, so it’s time to kick off our holiday fashion styles for INTJ Femme Dangels. I know INTJs are introverts who would rather stay home, but when you must get out, then go all out. Because INTJ females have such powerful imaginations, we tend to prefer fashion that reflects that inner world. When it’s time to dress up, we often wish we could channel that imagination, but as very few co-workers would understand that you’re paying homage to Lady Mary of Downton Abbey, or that Natasha Romanova of The Avengers is your spirit animal, it’s a lot easier to find the cheapest, most unremarkable fashion as your holiday party uniform. I get it. And yet, there’s no reason for you to not have at least one outfit in your closet that truly defines the incredible femme that you are. Be brave and wear it to the office party, or plan an evening out to a place where your style blends. For example, I never thought I’d be able to wear those crazy bow eyelashes that I got from a Christmas wish list. When I wore them to the Marina and the Diamonds concert, I actually had strangers come up to me and compliment my appearance. Of course, I’m an introvert, so I was a bit freaked out, but it also felt really good to have my quirky fashion not only blend in, but stand out in a good way. That’s why I’m excited for some of the outfits coming up this month. It is, after all, my mission to not only crush stereotypes about INTJ fashion, but to also teach and encourage fellow INTJs to invest in personal style, rather than spending your hard-earned money on blend-in uniforms.
With that being said, today’s look does reflect a bit of my own personal INTJ style, but I’m not sure that I would have purchased it, or even tried it on, if it had been up to me alone. Like many systems thinkers, I tend toward minimalism. However, I found this outfit after having gone on a date (more on that in February). After the date, I realized that I really didn’t have any “date” attire. I have clothes by the ton, but no clothing suitable for “attraction.” As my date had taken place in the mall, I met my stylist at A’gaci, a store that I usually just pass by. My stylist had identified the dress for me to try on, but it was sold out by the time I arrived. I was fine with that, but a store clerk was consulted, and she was able to find their one remaining dress, in my size, on a mannequin. I couldn’t get out of trying the dress on, so I had to reset my thinking about wearing a body con (form-fitting) dress. To me, such styles have never seemed practical, but as I’m challenging myself to try new things, within logical reason, this dress, that A’gaci offered as holiday fashion, suddenly fit a secondary function as a date night dress. After shifting my thinking, I was able to try on the dress with an open mind, and I loved it. Once I saw myself in it, my INTJ imagination kicked in, and I could see the possibilities of a dress that I would not have normally considered.
What’s INTJ About It?
- On the surface, the trendiness of the dress can be a bit off-putting to INTJs. This dress reminds me of the shock of Balmain’s collection for H & M back in 2015. Olivier Rousteing, who helms the fashion house, made a return to 80’s sensibilities and super-embellishment a thing back in 2015 with his H & M collection, and the trend shows no sign of abating. Right now, everyone is crazy for embellished sleeves, jackets, socks, and pants, Heck, the message seems to be, if you like it then you shoulda’ put a ring, or at least an embellishment, on it. In any event, it is likely that this trend will continue through 2018 in some form or another. From my perspective, the gold embellishment around the neckline of our featured dress makes this little black dress both New Year’s Eve worthy, and date night worthy. Two functions out of one outfit, that’s so very INTJ.
- One word: black.
- Because of the heavy embellishment around the neckline, you don’t have to spend mucho dinero on accessories. A nice bag or clutch (and I’ve got my BCBG Generation bag again, which you might recognize from this look) and you’re good to go. To add large earrings, any kind of necklace, or even fancy shoes would be to “gild the lily”, as the say. If you feel you need it, a ring or bracelet, if simple, would work, but the simplicity of the dress is part of what makes this perfect for INTJs, or anyone who doesn’t enjoy the hassle of holiday fashion.
The only other thing to keep in mind when you choose to wear a dress with heavy embellishment, is to consider wearing your hair up, or in a slicked back hairstyle. That’s especially true for a dress with all of the embellishment around the neck. You don’t want to cover the embellishment, or worse, get your hair caught in it. As for my little chignon, you may have noticed that I’ve added extra hair. Remember earlier when I mentioned my imagination kicking in? The extra hair gives me added drama, and totally changes the way the dress comes across. Plus, as the dress is so dramatic, more volume up top helps to balance it all out. Although I mentioned that you could wear this dress to an office party, or even home party, as a challenge to yourself, it’s actually for an upscale cocktail party or gala. So, how do you challenge yourself with your fashion during the holiday? We’d love to know if you want to share.
Oh For Fashion’s Sake!
Shoes: Maiden Lane