There are things that we hear so often, we forget the value the maxim is intended to represent. In this America of 2016, as we face the prospect of a new president, and a future that appears unresolved, Thanksgiving, more than ever, is a time to reflect on the underlying values of who we are, and who we wish to become. Although the general understanding of Thanksgiving is that it was celebrated by the pilgrims after their first harvest in the new world (there were 53 pilgrims, along with 90 Native American guests), it was not until 1863, during the Civil War, that President Abraham Lincoln declared Thanksgiving as a federal and national holiday. Lincoln acknowledged that while neighbor fought neighbor on the battlefield, none of this conflict disrupted society (beyond creating innumerable widows and orphans). As the proclamation formalizing an annual Thanksgiving holiday stated:
“. . . It has seemed to me fit and proper that they [blessings] should be solemnly, reverently, and gratefully acknowledged as with one heart and voice by the whole American people. I do therefore invite my fellow citizens in every part of the United States, and also those who are at sea and those who are sojourning in foreign lands, to set apart and observe the last Thursday of November next, as a day of Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens. And I recommend to them that while offering up the ascriptions justly due to Him for such singular deliverances and blessings, they do also, with humble penitence for our national perverseness and disobedience, commend to his tender care all those who have become widows, orphans, mourners or sufferers in the lamentable civil strife in which we are unavoidably engaged, and fervently implore the interposition of the Almighty Hand to heal the wounds of the nation and to restore it as soon as may be consistent with the Divine purposes to the full enjoyment of peace, harmony, tranquility and Union.”
Reflect. Appreciate. Connect.
Reflection and appreciation are not problems for INTJs. Connecting, however, is one of the most difficult aspects of the holidays for introverts. It’s not that we don’t love our friends and family, it’s just that we need time to recharge – something that varies by individual. For me, the opportunity to spend extra time with family just hanging out, playing video games, or telling bad jokes, or whatever, is appreciated. Of course, my family is made up of introverts, so we all need to recharge. Some introverts aren’t that lucky. Some people have so many family members that family get-togethers can seem like a punishment. I can’t help with that part, because love ’em, or hate ’em, family is family. If you’re lucky enough to have a close family, connecting goes with the territory (though we will have introvert self-care tips at the end of the month). Still, one of the best things about family celebrations is that you don’t have to go all out with your fashion. The goal is to look put together (for pictures and the like), but to also stay comfortable. There’s no one to impress. That’s why our Thursday fall-i-day looks are all about family time.
This family time fall-i-day look is effortless in the way that it gives you a defined (1940’s) style, while looking almost like an afterthought. It’s also very comfortable. The pants are a heavy cotton, but also very warm and soft. The cropped length remains on trend, and is still weather appropriate (luckily) this late in the fall. The short, puff-sleeved, denim shirt is loose, but shapely, so you’re not getting lost under layers of sweaters. If it’s already chilly where you live, throw on a jacket and you’re good to go.
Oh for Fashion’s Sake!
Shoes: Pilar Abril