It’s not that INTJs are against romance, it’s just that a constant bombardment of conformity to the mainstream idea of how a woman is supposed to dress to get, or keep, a man can take a toll. You shouldn’t have to scroll past 10 all-look-the-same, date night looks on your way to sarcastic INTJ quotes on Pinterest. If I’m dressing for a guy, he has to have earned the effort I make on his behalf. Can I get a witness? If this comes across as frustrated, I admit to the emotion. In doing research for Valentine’s Day gifts for INTJs, it seemed that most of the available choices centered on females using enticement, again going back to the idea that guys are just poor fools who can’t think beyond what they see. That’s not the type of guy that I want to spend my forever with. If he can’t love me from the start without all the sexy, then how could I ever think that he would be good at loving me when he finds out how I really dress (see the above picture)? Maybe it’s the “troubled track” but the struggle to make your own path in a same-same world is an area in which INTJs happen to excel. This Valentine’s Day, instead of being bitter about love, let’s practice authenticity as a form of self-care. That’s why, this month, you’ll get your traditional Valentine’s Day looks on Monday, but Thursdays are dedicated to I’d-Rather-Date-Myself looks.
I’d rather date myself looks are about wearing what you love, what defines you, and what makes you feel awesome! There’s no need to change who you are, or play the social game. To date yourself, you can wear whatever crazy concoction you want, be it fashionable, or not. For me, I love a parachute pant because, for this INTJ, it’s always hammer time!
What’s your ultimate self-date look? I’d love to know.
Oh For Fashion’s Sake:
Note: These photos were shot in Savannah, Georgia at the Savannah College of the Arts campus.